Nothing brings out a sense of family like the holidays. People travel to be together and enjoy lots of delicious food. Good times. It can also be a time of great frustration if custody arrangements are not agreed to or adhered to by both parents. Now is the time to confirm and finalize all details – before the hustle and bustle gets in full swing. And remember that consideration and compromise are the name of the game.
First thing’s first – review what has already been agreed to regarding holiday custody in the custody arrangement. Do not assume nothing was established. Check again. If needed, contact your divorce attorney to get a fresh copy of the documentation. If changes need to be made, begin the conversation as soon as possible. Some custody arrangements may require the court’s consent to make changes. And it may take a little time. Keep in mind things may proceed quicker if both parties agree to the changes.
Again, remember to be considerate of your ex’s plans and be prepared to compromise. Maybe splitting the day is an option. Breakfast here, dinner there. Whatever the deal winds up being, stay focused on the goal. The holidays only come once a year and you don’t want to wait another 365 days for a do over. Maintain a benevolent frame of mind when working out holiday plans with your ex so everyone, especially your child, has a happy holiday season.