Changing Your Relationship Status: How to Manage Social Media During Your Divorce

It is undeniable that social media has become an integral part of our lives, and as a result our marital status is not just indicated by a wedding band anymore. Now, many of us also broadcast our "relationship status" on the top of our Facebook profile for everyone from close friends, and acquaintances to see. While sharing your marital bliss with your e-community is a perfectly appropriate thing to do, many people do not know how to update their profile when their relationship takes a turn for the worse.

When someone is facing divorce, how it will impact their Facebook profile is not the first thing they think about. Normally individuals are worried about how their divorce will affect their children, their finances, or their partner. Many people don't consider how to deal with their relationship on their social media page until you're up late, emotional, and make the poor decision to post something about their marriage.

As you can imagine this is not a good idea. The best way to handle your divorce is to not mention your divorce on Facebook at all. Not mentioning your divorce ensures that your social media site does not become a sounding board for you or your ex to share the intimate and unpleasant details of your separation. To do this, simply change your relationship status from "married to John" to nothing. This way you don't publically state that you're no longer married, but you also don't falsely advertise that you're still married.

If you do decide to post about your divorce, post wisely. First go through your friend list and cut it down to people you trust. This means getting rid of casual acquaintances, and your ex's family and childhood friends. Second, don't post anything that you don't want your ex's attorney to read. This is because no matter how well you edit your friend list, it is highly likely that you had one mutual friend that decided to share your post with your ex.

In sum social media and divorces do not mix. Thus to change your relationship status smoothly, keep your divorce off social media.

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